The Process

My husband and I was having constant communication issues for about a month and a half. The devil was using this to create separation between us. I just couldn’t wrap my brain around why it has suddenly become an issue now, after being married for 10 years and together for 16 years. After having a heated argument one evening, I abruptly left the house to get some air and my thoughts together. While sitting in my car in silence and praying to God, He spoke to me and said “this is your reality because you knew who your husband was before marrying him”. “I am aware of the changes he needs to make but it will not happen on your time.” Then tears started streaming down my face. I just broke down. During this time I was texting my sister from another mother (lol) for some comfort and to just process what God has just revealed to me. To make a long story short, she replied to me saying “sometimes we just want to avoid the process”. BAM…there was my breakthrough! That’s exactly what it was and where my frustration came from. I just wanted God to make a change in my husband’s communication and attitude on my terms (like yesterday). However, God gently reminded me that my husband’s lack of communication and struggles are not mine to take on as my own. It’s not my battle to fight, it’s God’s. Although we want certain things in our husband to be a certain way, just know that in the way it occurs, it’s because God allowed it. Therefore, He is in control and we must trust that He knows what He is doing. Even if it’s not in the way we would expect it to go. So as a result we must go through the process. The following is the definition of PROCESS:

1. 1. 
a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end.
1. 1. 
perform a series of mechanical or chemical operations on (something) in order to change or preserve it.

With that said, God takes us through some struggles to help us to realize that He will need to take us through a series of actions/steps in order to achieve a particular end. Victory!!! My husband and I went through long days of no communication, minimum contact to tough conversations during that month and a half. It seemed like the longest month and a half of my life but looking back on it now, I see that God knew what he was doing. During that time He pruned certain behaviors and attitudes out of both of us. We came out of it stronger and more knowledgeable than we were before going through that struggle. So, wrote this to share and say that your days may seem tough and unbearable but you can do it! Stay strong, keep your focus on God, pray over your situation and speak life into it. It’s not what you go through but how you go through it. Remember, God is with you and He will never leave you nor forsake you. If He did it for me, He will do it for you!

But by the grace of GOD I am what I am, and HIS grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of GOD that was with me. 1 Corinthians 15:10

Inward Confidence

A virtuous woman of God glorifies Him inside and out. Her inward confidence and strength in God’s power will show in her attitude and behavior. When she speaks, she purposes to spread God’s wisdom, grace, and kindness.

How is your speech exposing your true character? A virtuous woman is characterized by more than just her outward appearance and actions. All virtuous outward behavior first begins with inward godliness and holiness.

Father God, You are so vast and expansive, and yet You encompass the smallest and most intimate areas of my life. Help me, Lord, to glorify You inside and out. In Jesus’ name. Amen.


Food For Thought:

GOD will sacrifice whom ever HE chooses Romans 2:11. GOD has chosen YOU as a sacrifice. The situation that caused you the most pain has been a sacrificial moment in YOUR life. GOD wants to know will WE/YOU still say YES.  YES I will trust YOU even tho I’m hurt, YES I will trust YOU even tho I’ve been betrayed or have betrayed someone.YES I will do YOUR WORK even tho I’m a sinful creator. YES even tho my husband, children, friends or coworkers aren’t acting the way I think they should. But wait I don’t act the way GOD expects me to act. The question is WILL YOU SAY YES to HIS WILL YES TO HIS WAYS and the most important one YES to suffer with HIM. Will you say YES.

Father God, with the power of Your Word, You create life, give hope, and transform lives. Lord, tame my tongue so that my speech has the positive transformative power of Yours. Lord, develop in me a stable emotional life free of outbursts and ungodly communication. Lord, I thank You for Your grace and mercy on the days that I fail with this. Lord, teach me to be a woman who leaves golden apples in my wake. In Jesus’ name. Amen.