My husband and I was having constant communication issues for about a month and a half. The devil was using this to create separation between us. I just couldn’t wrap my brain around why it has suddenly become an issue now, after being married for 10 years and together for 16 years. After having a heated argument one evening, I abruptly left the house to get some air and my thoughts together. While sitting in my car in silence and praying to God, He spoke to me and said “this is your reality because you knew who your husband was before marrying him”. “I am aware of the changes he needs to make but it will not happen on your time.” Then tears started streaming down my face. I just broke down. During this time I was texting my sister from another mother (lol) for some comfort and to just process what God has just revealed to me. To make a long story short, she replied to me saying “sometimes we just want to avoid the process”. BAM…there was my breakthrough! That’s exactly what it was and where my frustration came from. I just wanted God to make a change in my husband’s communication and attitude on my terms (like yesterday). However, God gently reminded me that my husband’s lack of communication and struggles are not mine to take on as my own. It’s not my battle to fight, it’s God’s. Although we want certain things in our husband to be a certain way, just know that in the way it occurs, it’s because God allowed it. Therefore, He is in control and we must trust that He knows what He is doing. Even if it’s not in the way we would expect it to go. So as a result we must go through the process. The following is the definition of PROCESS:
1. 1. a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end.
1. 1. perform a series of mechanical or chemical operations on (something) in order to change or preserve it.
With that said, God takes us through some struggles to help us to realize that He will need to take us through a series of actions/steps in order to achieve a particular end. Victory!!! My husband and I went through long days of no communication, minimum contact to tough conversations during that month and a half. It seemed like the longest month and a half of my life but looking back on it now, I see that God knew what he was doing. During that time He pruned certain behaviors and attitudes out of both of us. We came out of it stronger and more knowledgeable than we were before going through that struggle. So, wrote this to share and say that your days may seem tough and unbearable but you can do it! Stay strong, keep your focus on God, pray over your situation and speak life into it. It’s not what you go through but how you go through it. Remember, God is with you and He will never leave you nor forsake you. If He did it for me, He will do it for you!