To chose to be hopeful in the face of adversity…Now that’s a gift! 🙏🏽💃🏽🙋🏽♀️
It is impossible to experience peace when you are expecting perfection. The enemy of your peace isn’t other people, the place, the pace or the problem. You can’t receive peace if your expecting perfection. The enemy of your peace is your insistence on perfection. Shift your perspective!
There’s only a few people in the world that can witness your development and still treat you with dignity. Some people/friends were only there for who they thought you were. Those who are still there, through it all, with no judgement or hesitation are those who matter and really care.
In order to go the distance with God requires 3 things. Uncomfortable yes, uncommon commitment and unyielding faith. 🙏🏽
Don’t be surprised if God runs off your unbelieving spouse. You have to completely surrender what you had in mind of how your marriage/relationship should turn out. We have to remember, it is God’s will not ours.
It is a lot easier to believe in the Devil’s lies/in what you see and not in God’s word. Stay strong and focus on His promises. It takes a lot more faith to stay on the boat than it is to get off and walk away. Therefore, pray for God’s purpose for you in your situation, know your assignment and walk it out with confidence. Look back and see that the last time you were confused, worried and not knowing how you would make it through……BUT YOU DID! He will continue to bring you through so don’t get caught up in what you see before you and just press through DIFFERENTLY than you have before and know that He will bring you through THIS TIME TOO. Until you pass the test in the way GOD wants you to, it can and will repeat. Being in the middle, I’d like to describe as you not being where you used to be and you’re not quite where you want to be but you can see that light at the end of the tunnel and you’re almost there. My testimony and to help others to get to the other side, I say PRAISE God. Praise Him not because He got you OFF the boat (out of your situation) but praise Him because He got IN the boat (came into your situation) with you. He is bringing you through and all you need is His presence.
Be the example of your deepest desires, even when it’s not easy and stand firm. We can not control what’s happening around us but can control what’s happening within us. I know, I know, it’s easier said than done when going through a storm but I did it and I KNOW you can too!
Phillipians 4:13, “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
Now just like anything else, this will not happen overnight. It takes practice and with intentional efforts. Thereafter, it will become second nature to you. For example, although your husband may be running wild, rejecting you and God and not being respectful….stand firm! Stay true to yourself and who God has called you to be. Whatever you did as a wife and mother before this behavior emerged, continue doing it. Cooking, cleaning, communicating, reaffirming your love, reaffirming God’s love…no matter what and no matter how tough, just keep doing it! Trust me, it is hard but you have to! Why? You have a devil to fight. You have to see your husband as a child of God. He has to see God through you, in the way you walk and talk. Doing this shows you took your vows between you both and God seriously. So stay committed and fight the good fight. As a wife, you are his helper…so help! Pray, speak life into your husband and situation and walk with confidence because we serve a great God. You have the victory and it will be done! If you sit back, nothing will be done and the devil will win and take over.
I know as the man of the household, you desire him to be the teacher and preacher of the house and to lead as God intended. However, from experience….you just may have to be the one to take the lead. No, this won’t be for eternity because naturally (as a man) he will want to take the lead and will eventually become strong enough to be able to turn it around and become that teacher and preacher of the house as you’ve been longing for. Be the example.
Ladies, please know and understand that when you put your story and God’s story together…you have a GREATER story! 💃🏽
Our homes don’t need to be perfect by the world’s standards, or even by our own personal standards, but consecrated by God’s standards.
God has been working on me in this particular area and I wanted to share in hopes that it will be a blessing to another woman of God. Remember your testimony, journey and blessings are meant to be shared, so that it will be a blessing to another and that God will get the glory. In order to continue to get poured into, you must pour out into others.
As women, we wear a lot of hats and are ALWAYS doing something, on the run and checking things off the extensive laundry list. Well, God put it on my heart to share some wisdom with you all and tell you to “stay focused”. You must be IN the moment with whomever you are with and wherever you are located. Stop being in your crazy thought life of dwelling on what happened or what is to come. He has it all figured out and He just wants you to be in the moment and stay focused on the present. For example….Enjoy your child going on and on telling you about their day at school, even when you’re drained and tired trying to figure out why the clinical rounds meeting went the way it did and/or how you will complete the next task on your list. Make eye contact with that precious gift from God (they are not a burden), not looking at your phone and really engage with them. Because before you know it they will be grown, won’t want to be around you, won’t want to talk to you or need you due to independence. Also, let’s not forget that tomorrow isn’t promised to anybody, even for the little ones. I leave you with this….Yesterday is gone, tomorrow isn’t here yet, so ENJOY what’s right here and right now, stay focused!!!