Be The Example

Be the example of your deepest desires, even when it’s not easy and stand firm. We can not control what’s happening around us but can control what’s happening within us. I know, I know, it’s easier said than done when going through a storm but I did it and I KNOW you can too!

Phillipians 4:13, “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”

Now just like anything else, this will not happen overnight. It takes practice and with intentional efforts. Thereafter, it will become second nature to you. For example, although your husband may be running wild, rejecting you and God and not being respectful….stand firm! Stay true to yourself and who God has called you to be. Whatever you did as a wife and mother before this behavior emerged, continue doing it. Cooking, cleaning, communicating, reaffirming your love, reaffirming God’s love…no matter what and no matter how tough, just keep doing it! Trust me, it is hard but you have to! Why? You have a devil to fight. You have to see your husband as a child of God. He has to see God through you, in the way you walk and talk. Doing this shows you took your vows between you both and God seriously. So stay committed and fight the good fight. As a wife, you are his helper…so help! Pray, speak life into your husband and situation and walk with confidence because we serve a great God. You have the victory and it will be done! If you sit back, nothing will be done and the devil will win and take over.

I know as the man of the household, you desire him to be the teacher and preacher of the house and to lead as God intended. However, from experience….you just may have to be the one to take the lead. No, this won’t be for eternity because naturally (as a man) he will want to take the lead and will eventually become strong enough to be able to turn it around and become that teacher and preacher of the house as you’ve been longing for. Be the example.

 

Enough…

Women of God. I would like to share a word of advice that will be a blessing to you. It’s easier said than done especially when it comes to those closest to you, however it is possible.

-Stop trying to manage others decisions and manage your own….It’s enough!

Proverbs 19:20 Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.

True Love ❤️

No human relationship will test our understanding of love more than marriage. If you’re like us, you’ve fought to love each other in your marriage but have often fallen short. Where is the disconnect? If “love never fails,” why does it . . . fail?

The deepest disagreements you will experience as a married couple always have to do with your objective view of love and the expectations that come along with it. This materialized early on in our marriage whenever we’d argue about quality time. I need quality time to feel loved. However, my husband doesn’t need it as much, and he’d often work late into the evening thinking that he was actively loving me by providing. I felt utterly unloved if he was absent. He felt unloved if his work went unappreciated.

In other words, our own views of love are subjective. We need an external standard. Only then do we realize that the imperfect moments in marriage are our most potent opportunities to love FULLY.

Selfless Prayer

Dear Lord, You have designed each of us with a unique personality and skill set. You’ve also given each of us a distinct passion and interest in certain things. All of this combined with our different backgrounds comes together to point us in the direction of our purpose. God, help me as a spouse to be a support to my spouse in pursuing their purpose. Show me what I can do to strengthen their ability to carry out what You have called them to do. I know You have a purpose for me as well, but I don’t want that to get in the way of what You have created my spouse to fulfill.

With every purpose comes challenges, setbacks, and discouragements in its pursuit. I want to be a sounding board for my spouse to be able to talk about these things in a safe, loving environment where I don’t try to fix it or question it or even change it, but rather I provide encouragement and hope to keep going. Help me to be a blessing in my spouse’s life so that they reach the greatest fulfillment of Your purpose in their life. Keep me from selfish ambitions and even selfish desires that may stand in the way of what You have designed us individually, and as a couple, to pursue. In Christ’s name, amen.