We had a bible study with some of the ladies a few weeks ago on balance in our lives and areas where balance is crucial.
Reflecting on the ‘What is your motive?’ blog : Don’t allow your silence to be used as an excuse to avoid areas God is trying to get you to address.
Silence is an indication of strength but used in the wrong way can actually reflect weakness or disobedience.(I’m thinking of Jonah, God told him to speak on somethings to a people Jonah didn’t want to talk to).
It was not until I could truly receive what God’s Word said about me. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV
Only then can you release the dysfunction attached to your life.
Why commit, hold on to that which no longer serves where you are going? I’ve come to realize that some do not know who they are without the dysfunction or the pain. They know how to operate in their weakness. They can not identify who they are as whole individuals.
They say to themselves:
Why get rid of the hurt when I know how to curse people out when they cross me?
Why can’t you accept what it looks like when you can walk away – knowing that silence represents strength. It takes strength to hold back something that is untamed. You are actually weak when you ‘can’t control’ your emotions.
You really are scared of what it looks like when people ‘cross’ you and you don’t respond negatively.
Why accept a good guy, when I know how to function with the guy who cheats on me? Why do I love the abuse of his brokenness that leaves me crying every time he shows who he really is?
They should really be asking themselves:
Did God tell me to connect to that person in the first place?
Am I trying to play God? Am I trying to fix him?
You really want someone to fix you, not give up on you. Or do you feel better thinking you ‘made’ him better? Like he’s a project.
You are not and can not be God to him. You can’t even be God to your self. Let God be God.
Pray for maturity, strength, wisdom, courage and revelation of His Word in your life. 🙏🏾
Professionally and Spiritually, I’ve learned that part of the key to success is being able to accept and process the difficult things about ourselves or those we surround ourselves with.
Look at the differences between what we consider good people (or leaders) and bad people (or leaders).
We learned in, Chosen with Esther Devotional – Day 3and many other areas in the bible where the root of a person’s demise begins. King Xerxes surrounded himself with ‘Yes people’ because he did not want to hear the truth about his decisions and actions. They did everything to keep him happy, even when it was not for his benefit.
Their desire to keep him happy eventually changed and could have had detrimental effects to not only his kingdom and everything he worked for but also his life. He had to shift and listen to wise counsel.
How many times has God tried to tell you something that you just ignored and turned to what felt better?
If you find yourself stagnant or in the same cycle or surrounded by people who are not moving forward? Consider the fact that you could have dismissed wise counsel. You rejected the words that hurt (though there were good intentions), counsel that did not match the direction you thought you knew.
I’ve learned that successful people (present and in scripture) with purpose, direction and relationship of their true calling will not sit around to keep telling you something God has tried (or already) spoken to you. Matthew 10:14says ‘If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.’ (You may also reference Mark 6:11)
“God I want to be whole – well in my body, mind, will, emotions and spirit. You have given me Your word precisely so that it could shape my life. You will provide wise counsel and individuals to support my growth in You. Help me to listen even when it is difficult. In Jesus Name. Amen”
“I have come in order that you might have life—life in all its fullness.” – John 10:10b GNT
In this walk with Christ, in this journey to transform to who your were destined to be, relationship with Him is crucial.
It will make all the difference. Imagine going on a road trip with no map or directions. It would not be fun or enjoyable at all.
At least if you get lost along the way or hit roadblocks, the trip is not as draining or devastating if you have someone or something that can tell you the way.
In this journey, YOU WILL HAVE tests (with or without Christ’s help). Your relationship will make the difference.
When you are challenged, whether from the outside or within yourself, in what God thinks of you – relationship with Him will overcome any doubt.
Think of your (REAL) friends/family that you can really count on. Even if they are not always there or you don’t understand what they are doing, you trust their judgement because you have relationship, a history with them. So even if you hit a snag in the relationship or you don’t agree on something they did, you won’t just throw away your relationship over what you thought they should have done. Or vice versa.
When YOU have TRUE relationship with someone, no one can tell you what that person thinks of you. They may be able to confirm it or give you their perspective but YOU know. Better yet, if they write you a letter – YOU can interpret what they meant and what their intentions were behind that letter. You won’t need to confirm with someone else on what YOUR friend was saying to you.
I hope this message blesses you and reminds you of what you already have or should strive for in Christ.
Are you frustrated? What do you do when you feel like you have nothing left to give? What should you do when you feel empty or stretched?
What does God say? Where is He?
I pray this word gives you the strength you need to push through and achieve God’s plan and purpose for your life. My hope is the Lord surrounds you with people who can build you up as you progress in your journey.